As concerns about staying safe and healthy continue, we enter a holiday season like none other. Beloved traditions of gathering with family and friends may not be possible, yet this year may present an opportunity to adjust expectations and embrace new ways to celebrate and connect with loved ones.

According to Mark O’Brien, Erie County Commissioner of Mental Health, the COVID pandemic has shaken the foundations of many, resulting in increased rates of anxiety and depression.  The people and activities that we take for granted have either been suspended or deemed risky. Thus, routines and means of diverting stress have been taken away or called into question. Human beings are, by and large, social creatures. To varying degrees we thrive on interactions with others.

O’Brien shares his perspective on how to take care of our mental health during the holidays.

“The first thing to celebrate is the gift of life. We are now seeing that it can be a fragile gift and must be nurtured and protected. It is a time to renew friendships and connections to loved ones, even if done remotely. O’Brien said. “It is a time to realize that despite our differences, it is life itself that unites us in this common struggle. In adversity, we have rediscovered the resiliency of the human spirit.” 

Maintaining mental health during the holidays

It is important to recognize that the holiday season can be difficult in a typical year, and this year is far from typical. Traditions, spending time with family, and the hectic pace of the holidays can bring us joy and can also increase our stress.

“Since this season is so different, I would encourage people to consider embracing the difference. Maybe this is the December that you decide to volunteer, or give to an organization or family that is struggling,” Melinda C. DuBois, executive director, Mental Health Advocates of WNY, said. “Maybe this is the year you connect with your friends and family in a new way. Maybe this is the year you decide not to shop and instead give yourself a break and rest. Or maybe during this holiday season, you decide to give thanks and be grateful for the little joys in life. Since this season is so different, let’s make it special.”

DuBois shares that it is important to feel and identify your feelings if you are struggling.

“How are you really feeling? Are you feeling lonely? Sad? Are you afraid? ” she said. “It is so important to find help if you are struggling, even if you have considered reaching out for help and have been putting it off. You can always call the MHA at 886-1242 to find a mental health provider, or if you are in crisis, call Crisis Services at 834-3131,” she said.

With the entire society struggling together, DuBois has seen an enormous increase in online resources, articles on mental health, and social media posts.

She offers the following ideas:

• Investigate meditation apps and online courses such as Insight Timer or Headspace.
• Explore moving your body in new ways through yoga, walking, hiking in nature.
• Access mental health providers by telemedicine.
• Take an online course or simply read a book you’ve been wanting to read.
• Join a support group.
• Start a neighborhood check in.

“Since the winter season is a time when we tend to turn inward, now is the time to consider journaling, starting a morning gratitude practice, or reflecting on your goals for 2021. Even with the uncertainty, fear, and anxiety, there is opportunity.”

As Leonard Cohen so eloquently wrote, “Ring the bells that still can ring, forget your perfect offering. There is a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.” This holiday season is far from perfect. Commit to finding joy and finding new ways of taking care of yourself. Find some light in the darkness. DuBois said.

For additional resources, visit www.letstalkstigma.org